Posted by
Scottie on Monday, November 06, 2006 10:26:01 AM
It would seem that same-sex marriage captures a great deal of response from both sides of the issue here at Townhall. Given the popularity of the subject, and the thrust I wish to take with my new blog to address controversial issues, I present for your consideration the following rebuttals to many of the more common assertions on the subject.
Gays are denied the right to marry:
Gays do have the right to marry, the same as any other person. Nobody is stopping a gay person from marrying anyone of the opposite sex. What gays do not have is the right to redefine an institution recognized over millennia in order to substitute a completely different construct in its place. I don't oppose gay marriage, but I do oppose same-sex marriage. The difference is subtle, but important.
Marrying someone of the same sex has never been a right, and therefore it is impossible to deny anyone the "right" to same-sex marriage. The alleged "right" being denied simply doesn't exist, nor has it ever existed in this country through any legitimate democratic means. That end-runs around the electorate through the judiciary are not viewed as legitimate is reflected by the popular uproar whenever this occurs.
Traditionalists are all just Homophobes:
Where is the sensitivity to the injustice of a minority inflicting its radical agenda upon the majority in direct conflict to its time honored values and traditions? Why should traditionalists be slandered as homophobic for defending the status quo? Isn't justifying such a monumental change a burden properly placed upon those wishing to compel it? The gay community, for the most part, now rightfully receives the tolerance it originally sought; is it too much to ask that some tolerance of the traditional views of others is shown in return?
Tell me why gays shouldn’t be allowed to marry:
Instead of asking people that support a convention over 6,000 years old to defend it, perhaps it would be more appropriate for those proposing the change to make the case for changing it. If one can make a case sufficiently compelling as to overturn centuries of human development and philosophy, by all means let them present it. However, the burden here isn't on the status quo to defend itself; rather, the burden is on those who would radically change it to make the case for doing so.
But if the majority always decides, women would still be property:
Apparently, a compelling argument that convinced the majority evolved. A minority cannot change the status quo without the consent of a large part of the majority. I think women are equal to men, but it was only through the capitulation of men that this became the reality it is today. The majority had to be convinced that the new way was better or more just. It didn’t happen because the majority just decided one day to radically change things. It also didn’t happen because the majority tired of being harassed. While the suffragettes are properly given credit for starting the conversation (and many were jailed along the way), the real convincing was done in the millions of conversations of husbands with wives and fathers with daughters,
But marriage confers benefits denied to gay people:
True, marriage confers benefits to those that enter it. But the benefits are largely focused on creating an environment most beneficial to the potential offspring of a married couple. The state has a compelling interest in fostering such an environment for its future generations. The state sanctions marriage as the vehicle most appropriate for safeguarding its own future. Gay couples do not naturally produce offspring; hence there is no compelling need for the state to sanction these arrangements.
But gays are just as capable as anyone else of being good parents:
True. But marriage isn’t sanctioned based on merit; but rather on probability. Every rule has its exceptions; but in the overall scheme of things, heterosexual unions tend to be the most likely to produce offspring.
But it’s not fair to treat Gays differently from everybody else:
But they aren’t! They should be treated exactly the same as everybody else and they are. Where they are not, a crime is probably being committed. Ironically, same-sex unions would in fact treat gays differently from everybody else. The reality is that gays are different from everybody else in many ways, and due to our tolerant culture are provided tremendous freedom to celebrate and support their differences.
So Same-Sex Marriage will never happen then:
It may happen somewhere eventually. Due to our federalist system, the best tack would be to focus on liberal states and make the case for the change. If a state legislature passes a law allowing same-sex marriage and a governor signs it into law, it is in fact a legitimate law duly enacted by the legislature and should be honored. However, if the activists keep badgering the majority instead of trying to win them over, the majority may seek to protect its position by enshrining it constitutionally, as it has in several states already. That just makes the struggle all the more difficult. As Steve Covey says in his book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”, begin with the end in mind. Much of the current activism seems more focused on irritating the majority and may even be counterproductive ultimately.
A few parting thoughts:
In a society that claims that marriage is only a piece of paper, this uproar certainly puts the lie to conventional wisdom. Marriage is very important; it is part of the very foundation of our society. One needs only to look to secular Europe to see what happens to a society that undermines or neglects its foundation. In my lifetime I fully expect to see Europe become an Islamic society. Europe has no respect for its own cultural foundation, while Islam has a fanatical (and prolific) following hell-bent on creating a new Caliphate. The transition has already begun; bear witness to the next fifteen years.
If Europe falls as I predict, America will cling even deeper to its Judeo-Christian ethic in response. The baby-boomers are aging and becoming more conservative. The Marxist Left is slowly dying in the U.S. Its foundational tenets are largely refuted in practice and its utter disloyalty to the society that houses it is wearing thin with the average citizen. Its manifestation within the Democratic party is poisoning the political well. That sets the stage for a tremendous struggle with respect for same-sex marriage. Nearly every benefit of marriage can be reproduced through contractual arrangements, trusts, wills, and durable powers of attorney. If the benefits of marriage are the goal, they are largely attainable without same-sex marriage sanctioned by the state. If the goal is to change society, then I think the fight will be long and brutal.