Posted by
Scottie on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 9:16:56 PM
With the recent departure of Heath Ledger, we revisit a phenomenon that recurs with startling regularity in our culture these days. Like John Belushi, Kurt Cobain, Chris Farley, Anna Nichole, and River Phoenix, Heath has checked out of life far too early. Given Brittany Spears’ current psychological gyrations, her fate seems ordained to follow suit absent some kind of serious intervention. What is wrong with these people? Surely they have it all; cars, cash, celebrity, mansions, and every other trinket their hearts desire. These folks have an endless supply of willing sexual partners. They employ platoons of people to handle their every whim and clean up every mess and inconvenience. Since they obviously have it all, what gives?
I propose that they have nothing of real value. They have no religion to anchor them in the storms. They have no true friends, nor do they receive and give any deep abiding love. They have lots of meaningless stuff, but they’re missing the brakes necessary to keep their lives under control. It is inevitable that their life’s “trains” will eventually derail in spectacular fashion, to the breathless shock of their peers and the glee of the media in full feeding frenzy. Another young narcissist with no values, no faith, and no love cashes in his or her chips and leaves the casino, a victim of the paradox of having everything and nothing simultaneously.
If you want to have it all, let me make a few suggestions. First and foremost, surround yourself with friends that will tell you when you’re out of line and keep them. Include in that group some that are older than you are, people that can share their wisdom with you when the going gets rough. You’d be surprised how often the things that happen to us have already happened to those that went before us. An honest friend that was your friend when you were nobody is the most precious commodity on the planet; don’t discard them on your journey through life. Perhaps Harry Chapin said it best in his song, “I Let Time Go Lightly”, with the verse:
“Old friends, they mean much more to me than the new friends,
Cause they can see where you are,
and they know where you've been.”
Second, realize that you are a part of something bigger than yourself and show some respect for it. You’ve been blessed to live in the greatest nation ever devised by mankind. It has its problems, but there is no Utopia here on earth and there never will be. Look around the world for anything better. If you find it, spend some time there and give yourself a chance to discover the other side of the coin you think is so shiny. If you appreciate this nation and the benefits it has endowed to you, defend it. That’s right, serve your country. Invest in this nation. It will give you an unshakable foundation upon which to build a quality life and a perspective of ownership unlike anything else.
Get married and have some kids before you realize how much work it is and how much sacrifice it requires. It’s the reason you are here in the end; to produce, train and nurture your eventual replacements in the human race. Your children are the vessels into which you pour your values, traditions, and hopes for the future. Nothing else you do on earth is more important than to forge your links to immortality. It’s a tough job, but ultimately the most rewarding one you’ll ever find. Invest your time and energy in your wife and family. Remember, the time and attention you invest means more than any other “stuff” you provide.
Try to do something with your life that adds real value to society. Pick something that makes the world a better place. Build things, create things, help people, and leave more behind you than a dusty record of attendance. Avoid destructive careers. Don’t make a living out of complaining, finding fault, and tearing things down; instead create something of lasting value in the miniscule cosmic tick of your life. Invest in the future, in your community and your nation. Make your life’s work count for something.
Finally, learn to assume the position on a regular basis. That’s right, get on your knees before the living God and invest in a relationship with Him. Search your heart, and find your own path to Him. Exercise your human capacity to understand and realize that there are some things that humans cannot understand. Realize that taking some things on faith is the best you can do. A Godless life is a life without meaning; one no more significant than that of a bacteria growing in a discarded Petri dish. Look around and think about it. Is your entire existence a random combination without any cosmic purpose? Of course it isn’t; you are here for a reason. You are here to invest the fleeting moment you’ve been given to the highest purpose you can before it comes to a close.
What good are all the “stuff”, and the sycophants, and the glory to the departed Mr. Ledger today? Unfortunately, he didn’t invest in the things in life that offer a lasting return. When his life took off, he didn’t have the anchors he needed to stop it from spiraling out of control. In spite of “having it all”, in the end he had less than most. He just didn’t make the right investments.
Scottie